The Bloody Talk – Curio

I have lived most of my life in an undertone. The secluded one. The weird one. I have my own self-created restraints. But there is one thing that helps me escape my own aura. That is when I write.

When it comes to periods, I feel every single person on this earth becomes a reflection of me. Weird, secluded, limited!

And it is not a particular gender…..

I might accidentally sound too bold, angry, annoyed but remember, aren’t we all the same about something or the other?

I came across this video How Women Have Lived With Their Periods Since 1900 a few days back and I realized that India is still in the 18th century. Sorry to disappoint the tech savvy crowd of this nation but. How did we manage to be CEOs at international companies when we are risking the hygiene of 50% of the nation’s population?

 

What do periods actually feel like? A little summary…….What periods feel like?

 

Okay, most of the people know what are sanitary napkins and where they are applied. But there are things called TAMPONS and MENSTRUAL CUPS, 95% of the nation’s population does not know about. I was attending pre-med coaching a year back and MOST of my hostel mates did not know about TAMPONS. What? They are the future doctors. Not their fault!

Tampons are far more comfortable than sanitary napkins, you do not feel wet all the time, they do not show from your skinny jeans, no staining, no skin irritation and nobody knows about it. We carry the most advanced gadgets in our backpacks but are oblivious of the scope of comfort in our life. Huh?

What made a fuss in the trending section?

The government has put sanitary napkins under the 12% GST slab. Where male contraceptives and female beauty products like sindoor and bangles are under the 0% GST slab. The excuse is that these are necessity products. Which makes sanitary napkins a luxury product in this case. What the hell are you trying to convey? Are you trying to challenge the scientific fact and say that period is under our control?  That to look traditionally more accurate with the sindoor, bindi and bangles are MORE IMPORTANT than having a basic physical hygiene.

For God’s sake, a majority of women in India are suffering from ovarian cancer, genital infections, cervicitis, vulvovaginal candidiasis, PID, even ectopic pregnancies and miscarriages in some cases. Just because of the lack of menstrual sanitation. Only 5% of the female community uses sanitary napkins in India. The rest of them use pieces of cloth, rags, jute bags, ash, wood shavings, paper scrapings, used newspapers and the list of unimaginable items goes on. Guys, we are in an era where we have developed textile materials which guarantee us comfort throughout the year and we are placing wood shavings near the most sensitive areas of our body.

We still feel awkward to buy a sanitary napkin from a medical store. And our sanitary napkins are still hidden in the most top secret pockets of our backpacks. Women are restricted from their daily routine just because they are considered impure or in some cases too pure to use a sanitary napkin.

I can not and I won’t discuss all the taboos alive in this country in this post. But if you wish, you can visit Breaking Taboos for further references.

We are aware……

But just not ready to talk to the faces…..

I wrote a post just to raise the hope…….(Chuckles ;P)……. No more awkward…

 

The stereotypes NEED to break.

Menstruation is the reason we exist so why can’t we be comfortable with a phenomenon so close to our being. We have outrages about bloodshed on every border but the blood that is creating life is neglected.

Guys, just let them make fun about you and your concern.

You do not need to be a feminist to understand how grave this situation is. You just need to be a Human.

 

Ladies, it’s time we no longer hide the natural call. No more awkwardness when asking for a sanitary napkin in a medical store. Please do not feel insecure while talking to your brothers and fathers and friends about it. If they think you are too bold, ambitious, weird, different, let them. Because you are doing it for your sisters who still live on folds of cloth. If you don’t speak up how do you expect the less fortunate to even think of speaking up.

And guys if she is comfortable enough to talk about it to you, do not feel special. She is speaking to you about it just because she considers you a human. THAT IS ALL.

DON’T BE OFFENDED

Guys don’t be offended by this post. It’s not your fault. Some people are culprits. They know who they are. You are reading this so that at the end you can present your views casually and truthfully without being politically correct.

Ladies don’t be offended by this post. It’s not your fault. Some people are culprits. They know who they are. I am not a feminist. Or a feminazi. I am a human. With a similar upbringing. To be silent about it. To be discreet about it. But now I am a human. So I am talking to you. And I want you to talk. And talk freely, casually, without being politically correct.

Please do not stick to a singular paragraph and put your views. Consider the entire article. Being bias is not the solution.

Ladies and gentlemen, I was not able to cover all the topics and scenarios through this post. I apologize for that.

So it is your duty to fill up the blanks and speak up. Right down there in the comments sections. So that when the next person reads it, that person has more diverse views on his display.

 

 

 

 

 

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16 Comments Add yours

  1. NeerajSK says:

    Bravely written and honestly expressed. I would like to add that it is the simplest of changes that will add up to creating greater awareness. For instance, even today, sanitary pads are sold in black opaque plastic bags while other medicines and even condoms are sold in clear plastic bags.

    Alternatively, if it is not a metropolitan city, the packet of the sanitary pads is wrapped in a newspaper and handed out to women as if it is some contagious disease.

    I do not understand that why even the highly educated ones feel ashamed to buy and sell sanitary requirements of women?

    Also, I would really like to thank you for bringing up the topic of ‘cups’. I hear that ‘cups’ are quite comfortable, safe and cost effective. I hope more women open up to and adopt better options and stop being ashamed of the power of procreation that only they possess.

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  2. elisabethkhan says:

    Very brave post and very necessary! Looking forward to read more by you!

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    1. curiohb says:

      Thank you elisabethkhan, it was a pleasure to hear from you, and yeah, your blog really did catch my eye, your perspective is so interesting, will be reading rest of your posts soon… 🙂

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  3. Devanshi soni says:

    Well done proud to see such kind of lades to talk on this topic

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    1. curiohb says:

      Pleasure to hear that Devanshi 🙂

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  4. ANUSHKA says:

    Absolutely awesome article… For a topic very few dare to visitusijjnnig and even fewer succeed to explain you did a Marvellous job… And to know that there are such people who don’t even have the access to such basic rights of having of using sanitary napkins, it tells people that we can start making a difference by helping with such little things…

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    1. curiohb says:

      Thank you so much Anushka, it is so relieving to hear that there are people who feel the same way and present their independent views effortlessly….would love to hear more from you…. 🙂

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  5. Sonismita says:

    Lovely article! Society, the biggest critic and the greatest judge.As girls our heart screams to break free from these myriad rules and regulations that chain us,but in the end we just have to learn to settle with what we have. One thing i would like to share that some women are forced by these rules but some girls feel very proud to pass on these legacy(TABOOS) to their gen-next!!! This is stupidity.

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    1. curiohb says:

      Splendidly put Sonismita…..it is time we no longer settle to the norms…..it is an honor to read your views…

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  6. Dhruv Choudhary says:

    That was a great article. And honestly i think that periods is a big taboo in India. I mean , i don’t know why but it is treated as a joke or a disease….
    Comeon people it is the most powerful phenomena present in nature…..it gives birth to a life. It’s a bridge which brings life on this planet.
    And your writing is influential, you should write more on such eyeopener topics
    🙂

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    1. curiohb says:

      Thank you, Dhruv, for your views. It means a lot when people are scared to talk about it. 🙂

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  7. Khushbu says:

    Great write! It was awesome. Thanks for all the TED links and that poem on YouTube. Well endowed with stats and relevant links and of course shocking eye-openers. Wood shavings? Ash? Love the title as well, suits so well. Proud friend here!

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    1. curiohb says:

      Thank you Khushboo, it is a pleasure to hear from people who want to make a difference. 🙂

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      1. Khushbu says:

        You know my sister hates periods because she can’t go swimming then. It surprises me how quickly she’s grown.

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  8. Kijo says:

    Wonderful choice of images!

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